It's all about communication

I've a new understanding about communication, the lifeline of our interaction with other human beings on this earth, at least with those around us - teammates, colleagues, siblings, friends, acquaintances, etc. We can't avoid human interaction, be they positive or negative, unless if you decide to become a hermit and reside in one of those forest reserves, which is rather unlikely. :)

With courtesy of Naoko, I was given a piece of paper with this title imprinted on it: THE NON VIOLENT COMMUNICATION PROCESS. At first, I hesitated. Non violent? Sort of implicating that I'm violent. Anyway, why not give it a read? My inner self urged me to read it. I'm glad I read.

I Google-d it as well and found this: Nonviolent Communication is... developed by Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg. I like what he said, "Violence in any form is a tragic expression of our unmet needs."

I learn a few things:

1. Observe:
* What is actually happening in a situation? What are people saying or doing?
* Is our life enriched or not by their speech and deeds?
* The concrete actions we are observing that are affecting our well-being.

2. Feel:
* State how we feel after our observation.
* How we are feeling in relation to what we are observing.

3. Need:
* Indicate what we need from the feelings that we've identified.
* The needs, values, desires, etc that are creating our feelings.

4. Request:
* Indicate what we are wanting from the other person that would enrich our lives or make life more wonderful for us.
* The concrete actions we request in order to enrich our lives.

For more details, read the original article. Below is an excerpt:

When we use NVC in our interactions, with ourselves, with another person, or in a group, we become grounded in our natural state of compassion. It is therefore an approach that can be effectively applied at all levels of communication and in diverse situations:
* intimate relationships
* families
* schools
* organizations and institutions
* therapy and counseling
* diplomatic and business negotiations
* disputes and conflicts of any nature

I'm helped. Now, it's the matter of putting them into practice.

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QUOTES

Before every minute of action,
there should be an hour of thought.
(Henry Ford)

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Until you are happy with who you are,
you will never be happy with what you have.
(Zig Ziglar)

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Yesterday is the past, tomorrow is the future, and today is the present.
That's why it's called a gift.

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It's a sign of maturity when you can take correction to heart
and learn from it rather than becoming defensive.

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One will make mistakes, get into trouble, and face failures.
Accept this and STOP demoralizing yourself with self-pity.

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Success is always sweet but its impact on one's life
is not as profound as what a failure could do.

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A plan without action is a dream.
Action without a plan is a nightmare.

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You LOSE CONTROL when you kinda LOVE something about your situation and HATE the solutions that you're supposed to take to face it.

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Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker.
Failure is a delay, not a defeat.
It is a temporary detour, not a dead end.

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Whatever you want in your life, the key to YOUR success
is to TRANSFORM your thinking, emotions & behavior!

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You can tell the size of your God by looking at the size of your worry list. The longer your list, the smaller your God.

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Nothing is too great and nothing is too small
to commit into the hands of the Lord.

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